There are some things that continue to remain a mystery to me: for example, how the first person figured out Algebra is incomprehensible to me; also, the theory that things drop at the same speed regardless of mass (at least I think I'm right on that theory) makes my head hurt. But above all those, right now a particular mystery is boggling my mind. It doesn't consist of theories and complicated mathematics, rather a simple social question. Well, maybe I shouldn't say simple, because it really isn't simple to me.
I want to understand what makes people (more specifically one woman) think that I am mad at them for no conceivable reason other than I may or may have not given them a certain gesture (by gesture, I mean wave). So, now that I have explained the mystery I wish to know, I will explain how I came across it.
About 3 weeks ago, this girl stopped talking to me. Why? I have no clue. (Yes, high school drama at its finest. Actually, the only reason I am posting this is because I realized the American people are extremely obsessed with drama and would likely read what I have to say — hopefully I guessed right)
So, for about 3 weeks, she didn't say a word to me, let alone make any sort of eye-contact. Of course, I recognized this was odd behavior, so I asked her best friend what the heck was wrong. Here is the answer I received: "Oh, she thinks you're mad at her. Are you?" I drew back a little, almost in shock, "No…what? How did she think that?" According to the next information I received, I was told I didn't wave goodbye (I don't remember this waving incident whatsoever) to her at some moment in time, and that — of course — was the cause of this odd situation. Right…
I hate drama. I hate it a lot. I wish drama did not exist. I wish women would stop creating drama. I wish television shows like Laguna Beach and The O.C. did not exist, for I am sure that is what people think reality is — but reality is not a soap opera, people! I wish people would stop perceiving my 'not smiling' as 'anger'.
But for some strange reason, I have not the courage nor the will to confront this drama-filled woman with the real story. I guess I should do that sometime. Maybe I would be more inclined to do it if I knew what the heck goes on inside some peoples' heads. So could someone enlighten me to this? I'm in the dark right now.
I took Drama courses in high school.
Seriously though, you really should confront this issue. Just go up to her, ask if you can talk, and tell her that you’re not angry with her.
If you don’t, you might regret it later on, unless she’s someone you really can’t be bothered with at all, in which case feel free to ignore this whole comment.
Hey, here’s my two cents:
First, I really like your comment about the O.C. and how you wish they wern’t on the air giving kids a false view of how to socialize. Right on.
Social skills, however, are something that you will be improving all of your life. Some folks are just naturally good at it, those folks don’t tend to be bloggers.
Social interaction – esp. when it involves the phillies – can generate a lot of nervousness and stress. Many people often try to avoid these unpleasant feelings by channeling them into a role (i.e. drama) or withdrawing (not waving).
Certainly I’m oversimplifying it. Working on your social skills will pay off with incredible dividends later in life – leading to more quality relationships, better work advancement, and even fewer traffic tickets.
It sucks, but it’s worth it.